Calling all pilgrims

I couldn’t find any other place in scripture where the word “pilgrim” appears. It only seems to show up in the psalm printed above, a psalm you might have heard in church yesterday. The term is probably most readily associated in our culture with the first Thanksgiving in New England, which may or may not help us recognize the deep meaning of the word.

As distinct from a tourist, a pilgrim is someone who travels with a distinct purpose. Here’s how one travel site described the difference: Tourists are seeking relaxation, entertainment, and a break from everyday lives. Pilgrims, on the other hand, are seeking a deeper connection with their faith or with the universe. They are often on a quest for self-discovery and personal growth.

In other words, pilgrims are looking for something and they don’t find it by staying put. That restless quest is very much at the heart of our Christian faith. Jesus told the first disciples: Follow me. He set them on a journey. When they asked where they were headed, he simply said: Come and see. First Christians were not called Christians. They were called people of the way. On many days, I wish we’d kept that name. The term Christian suggests arrival, maybe even institution. There’s little of that when we speak of people on the way.

An insight from pastor and smart guy Brian McLaren has guided me in my ministry. He highlighted this question for our churches and denominations: Are we a club for the spiritually elite who pretend to have arrived or a school for disciples who are on the way? Asked another way: are we on a pilgrimage?

I’ve made a few pilgrimages over the course of my life, some international, some not. Friends have made powerful, transformative pilgrimages to the camino in Spain, to holy rivers in India, to sacred sites in Jerusalem, to remote islands like Iona. All thin places where discovery can happen as the distance between heaven and earth diminishes. A.k.a., thin places. Those journeys have resulted in spiritual growth, transformed lives.

But it seems to me that you don’t need to contend with air travel in order to experience this kind of discovery, for which I say, “Thanks be to God.” What seems critical is the pilgrim’s mindset. It is as the psalmist says a matter of having our heart set on the pilgrims’ way. We can do that anywhere.

I’ve discovered in my work with Renewalworks that perhaps a quarter of the congregations I’ve worked with demonstrate a spirit of complacency, a spirit that says, “We’re fine where we are, thank you very much.” There’s little interest in pilgrimage. As I reported this particular profile to one congregation, the pastor called me in response. He thanked me for the insight and tongue-in-cheek said that the church had changed its tagline in response. The new tagline for the church? “We’re spiritually shallow and fine with that.” I doubt that ever appeared on their masthead, but it says something true about our congregations. It may say something true about where each of our hearts are set.

So what would it mean to set our hearts on the pilgrims’ way? It means that there is a place to which we are called that may be different from where we are right now. It means that we are open to God’s gracious and surprising activity in our lives. A best practice principle for congregations is to get people moving, to help them see that there is more, that God has more in store for them. How might you get moving this week, my pilgrim friends?

As you ponder that, a reminder that God is with us in the journey, that the journey is in and of itself a gift, a grace. So I close with wisdom from Anne Lamott: I do not understand the mystery of grace – only that it meets us where we are and does not leave us where it found us.

–Jay Sidebotham

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Fear and Love

When I worked in the creative department of an ad agency, one of the principals of the agency instructed us that there were only two motivators in advertising: love or fear. From a secular setting came a message with theological implications.

Fast forward to a few years later when I was leading a bible study, prattling on about love and its opposite hate. One member of our group interrupted. No, actually offered a course correction. She said: “You know, Jay, the opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is fear.” I’ve thought about that insight often, recognizing that in the history of religion, fear has been a great motivator. It’s not just true in religion. Our politics in this election year are driven in many ways by fear.

I’m told that in scripture, the phrase “fear not” appears 365 times. So what does it mean when we read in yesterday’s psalm (see above) that the fear of the Lord is a good thing, the beginning of wisdom. A mentor once told me that in the journey of faith, we have to decide what we believe and what we refuse to believe. I’ll refuse to believe that this psalm which references the fear of the Lord indicates a God who delights in our punishment. Do what God says, or else.

Given that, what might the fear of the Lord mean? I suspect in this context it has to do with the recognition that our lives unfold in the presence of a power greater than ourselves, leading us to reclaim the true sense of the word “awesome.” I forget that insight often. We forget that insight at our spiritual peril. We face the temptation to imagine we are the star of the story, with the implication that God is lucky to have us on the team. We too readily give into the temptation to worship things not worthy of our devotion, giving our hearts to that which will not satisfy our hearts. It’s a story as old as the Bible and as contemporary as our current political scene.

It’s why worship is such an important element of our faith journey, as we gather to praise God from whom all blessings flow, to be reminded that God is the creator, the source of light and life. And our worship is not only what we do on Sunday morning. As the Prayer Book notes, we worship not only with our lips but with our lives. As we commit to a life of service, we do so in response to God’s goodness, a sacrifice of thanksgiving. We do so in the spirit of the fear of the Lord.

This interpretation of the fear of the Lord means that love need not be the opposite of fear. In fact, the fear of the Lord understood in the true meaning of awesome reminds us of this important truth: Nothing can separate us from the love of God. That kind of amazing grace can be awe-inspiring, leading us to respond with love of God and love of neighbor.

The psalm tells us that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. It’s the starting point. Wisdom is more than simply knowledge. Knowledge you can get from Google. We are set on a journey marked by wisdom. What can we do this week to take steps in that wisdom journey? Where do we begin? It begins with spending time thinking about the fear of the Lord, recognizing that it has everything to do with love.

–Jay Sidebotham

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Taste and see/Come and see

This past week, guided by the daily lectionary of the Episcopal Church, I’ve started reading the Gospel of John. In the first chapter, we read John’s version of the calling of disciples. We meet John the Baptist, who apparently has his own disciples. Jesus shows up, and John the Baptist directs his own disciples to Jesus. That was John the Baptist’s way. He pointed to Jesus. Two of John’s disciples begin to follow Jesus. Jesus notices they are following. They get into a conversation. They ask where Jesus is staying. Jesus says: “Come and see.”

Soon after that, another disciple (Philip) was telling his friends about Jesus. They wonder if Jesus could be the real deal. Friends were skeptical. “Can anything good come out of Nazareth?”, they ask. Rather than make an argument about why Jesus might be the Messiah, Philip simply says to them: “Come and see.”

The psalm you may have heard yesterday in church (printed above) invites readers to taste and see that the Lord is good. That’s an earlier version of what John’s gospel repeats: “Come and see.” That simple invitation has a lot to teach us.

God, in Christ, says to each one of us: “Come and see.” It’s an invitation to be in relationship with the Holy One. It’s not just about knowing about God. It’s about knowing God. A friend, a priest sees an analogy to cooking, of all places. She says you can read a recipe. You can have an opinion about ingredients. You can imagine what cooking techniques you would use, or what the dish might taste like. In other words, you can know about the meal. But none of that is the same as eating the meal.

Knowing about God may include biblical familiarity, theological study, liturgical correctness, ethical exercises, regular church attendance. But that’s not the same as knowing God. Often religious people focus on knowing about God because knowing God can be risky and mysterious. And here’s the scary part: It can call for change. I wonder if those disciples who followed Jesus later on wondered if life wouldn’t have been a lot easier if they hadn’t asked their question.

The invitation to come and see is not only extended to us by God. It is an invitation we’re meant to extend to others, as Philip did early on in John’s gospel. There’s freedom in that. We don’t need to argue about religion or theology. We don’t need to convince someone else that we’re right (and they’re wrong). God knows we don’t need to dispel skepticism and compel other people to believe as we do. That’s generally not all that productive. We simply have to encourage others to try out the life of faith. “Come and see.”

So how do we hear Jesus say to us “Come and see?” How are you hearing that voice this Monday morning? What does it take to respond? There’s risk involved, maybe like Peter stepping out of the boat to walk on water to meet Jesus. It may call for courage. It’s about being open to a new thing God may want to do in our lives. It’s about being all in.

And how might we invite someone else to “come and see.” I know there is reticence about sharing spiritual experience, especially among Episcopalians. These days, it seems we’re surrounded by people who do it in an annoying, intrusive way. Dave Barry put it this way: Why is it that people who want to share their faith with you never want to hear about yours?

But if we have answered the invitation that came to us, if we have responded to God’s invitation, if we have had what our youth group called a God-sighting, if we have found God’s invitation to be good news in our lives, no one can argue that away. It is a kindness to want other folks to have that holy experience. It is a kindness to share that experience with others.

What does the invitation to come and see, to taste and see sound like to you this morning? How will you RSVP?

–Jay Sidebotham

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A clean heart

Here’s a piece of wisdom passed on from a predecessor, Alan Gates, now bishop of Massachusetts. He said: I’ve never met a motive that wasn’t mixed. His wit offers wisdom about the human condition, truth as old as the Bible.

It’s truth reflected in Psalm 51, which you may have heard yesterday in church (see above). Attributed to David, the psalmist reveals his own mixed motives, the forces pulling him in different directions. The psalmist is aware of unsavory parts of his interior life, aware of dastardly things he has done. At the same time, there is a desire to be changed.

Centuries later, St. Paul wrote a letter to the church in Rome and described his own inner struggles. Get a load of what he says in the 7^th chapter (verse 15-21): I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. Now if I do what I do not want, I agree that the law is good. But in fact it is no longer I who do it but sin that dwells within me… For the desire to do the good lies close at hand, but not the ability. For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I do. Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it but sin that dwells within me. So I find it to be a law that, when I want to do what is good, evil lies close at hand.

Ever felt like that?

Soren Kierkegaard said that purity of heart is to will one thing. Sounds good, Soren, but how do we get there? Maybe there’s a key in one of the verses from Psalm 51. The author prays that God will create in him a clean heart and renew a right spirit within him. That kind of purity of heart, a clean heart, is something God creates. While I feel powerless over resentments and judgments that take up residence in my soul, the good news is that God can make things new. The good news is that such renewal is not all up to me.

We may think of God the creator as one whose work is finished, God setting things in motion like a clock maker, then moving on to other endeavors. The prayer of Psalm 51 affirms that the creative work of God is ongoing, as in the bumper sticker: PBPGINFWMY (Please be patient. God is not finished with me yet.) The persistent biblical image of God as potter and human beings as clay gets at this image of ongoing creative work.

The potter metaphor can be helpful, but having said that, I feel a need to point out that we are more than lumps of clay. As God’s beloved children, as bearers of the divine image, we have a part to play in this new creation. It has to do with being open to God’s creative work.

That probably begins with a recognition, a confession that we need a clean heart, that we are pulled in many directions. It begins with asking for help. Truth be told, we all have numerous vocations: parents, children, siblings, workers, bosses, employees, citizens, artists, athletes. Those various vocations tugging at us in ways that can create inner conflict. In that inner landscape, many of the meditations of our heart are far from acceptable in the eyes of the Holy One. Like St. Paul, I suspect we all contend with that kind of conflict.

Then moving beyond confession, we can open ourselves to God’s creative power. Last week, in reading meditations by Howard Thurman, I came across his vision for a way to have a new heart. He said we are to seek each day, and several times a day, a lull in the rhythm of daily doing. He added: At first the quiet times may be quite barren…one needs to get used to the stillness. This time may be used for taking stock, for examining one’s life direction, one’s plans, one’s relations. It is like cleaning out the closets or the desk drawers and getting things in order. When the awareness of God comes in – how he entered, one does not know, one is certain that He had been there all the time. Thurman concludes this meditation by saying: Suppose you begin now, this day with the use of the quiet time in some fashion as suggested.

Not bad advice for a Monday morning with a focus on a new heart. Thank you, Howard Thurman, for helping us begin.

So if anyone is in Christ, there is a new creation: everything old has passed away; look, new things have come into being! II Corinthians 5.17

–Jay Sidebotham

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What kind of fool am I?

Time to talk about foolishness, prompted by the first verse of the psalm heard in church yesterday (See above).

Centuries before Jesus showed up on the scene, the psalmist noted the foolishness of saying there is no God. We may think that atheism is some modern invention, the contribution of Nietszche or more recently Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris or Christopher Hitchens. But a long time ago, the psalmist noted people who saw a world devoid of divine engagement. According to the psalmist, that’s a kind of foolishness.

It’s a point of view that intelligent people have taken, a point of view reasonably prompted by the cruelty we see around us. As a specific way to look at the world, it is a choice each one of us can make. Theists might say God has given us that as free will. As Einstein (no fool he) said: You can look at the world as if nothing is miracle or as if everything is miracle.

Lest I wax all judgmental about atheists, I confess that while I swim in the stream of believers, committed to a life of faith, I am often a functional atheist. I often run my life as if God does not exist, as if God is not engaged in my life, as if I’m not accountable to God, as if my life does not unfold in the presence of the Holy One. A friend gave me a postcard which says: “Hey God, let me pencil you in on Sunday morning,” as if to say that the rest of the week is my own. Mindful of the psalmist, we might say that is a foolish way to live.

There’s another side to biblical foolishness. In his letter to the Corinthians, Paul gets into an interesting discussion about the foolishness of God. He writes: “For the message about the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God. For it is written, “I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, and the discernment of the discerning I will thwart.” Where is the one who is wise? Where is the scholar? Where is the debater of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world? For since, in the wisdom of God, the world did not know God through wisdom, God decided, through the foolishness of the proclamation, to save those who believe.” (I Corinthians 1:18-21) Paul goes on to say that God’s foolishness is wiser than human wisdom. (1:25)

Elsewhere in this letter to the rambunctious Corinthian church, Paul talks about being a fool for Christ. (I Corinthians 4:10) Let’s be clear: St. Paul often seems fairly impressed with his own intellectual gifts. No shortage of ego strength with this apostle. But he notes repeatedly that he gives that all up to fulfill his call. I suspect people around him (professors, clergy colleagues, family, his therapist) thought he’d gone off the deep end. In many ways, the path Paul chose (or perhaps was chosen for him by grace) made little sense.

Jesus’ relatives thought the same kind of thing about Jesus.

Maybe in your own life, your decision to follow a life of faith may seem foolish. A friend who decided to go to seminary had dinner with rich relatives who tried to talk him out of it. The uncle, a successful businessman, began his pitch by saying: “Seminary? There’s no money in that.” It was clear he thought that such a career path was foolish. I grew up hearing about an evangelical missionary named Jim Elliott who lost his life taking the gospel to remote parts of South America. His wife wrote a book about him. The book included this prescient quote from her husband: “He is no fool who gives up what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.”

Maybe you have days when you think pursuing a life of faith makes no sense. Maybe you feel that way this morning. Mark Twain said that faith is believing in what everyone knows is not so. But depending on what kind of fool you choose to be this week, perhaps you can join St. Paul in affirming that while the message of the cross may seem foolish to some, for us it represents “the power of God.” It represents the love of God. Maybe in the end we’re just fools for love.

–Jay Sidebotham

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Setting the Table

Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of officiating at worship services at nursing homes. Especially when Holy Eucharist was part of the service, those gatherings gave me greater clarity about my own call to ministry and about the power of the sacraments.

Often the worshippers in those congregations battled dementia. Let’s just say that I wasn’t sure my brilliant homiletic points were having much effect. But I found that when I wove Psalm 23 into the liturgy, as maybe the most well known psalm of all, even worshippers in some other world could recite the words, a witness to the power of holy writ.

You may have heard this psalm in church yesterday. It’s printed above. I invite you to reflect on it this week and to try to do so as if you’d not heard it before.

I tried that this past week, and focused on the phrase “You spread a table before me in the presence of those who trouble me.” It reminded me of another verse from the psalms, one often read on Ash Wednesday. As the children of Israel wander in the desert, seemingly quite lost, they ask: “Can God set a table in the wilderness?” I love the bit in the story of the exodus when the children of Israel tell Moses they would prefer to go back and be slaves because the table was set for them in Egypt with cucumbers, melons, leeks, onions, garlic. (It does sound kind of delicious.)

Whether we find ourselves in some version of the wilderness, or whether our lives unfold in the presence of those who trouble us, here’s a question we might want to ask: Is God able to meet us there? Is God able to provide for us there? To set a table for us?

These days, we certainly may feel that our lives unfold in the presence of those who trouble us. General anxiety in this political season is one place that can happen. I suspect we all have situations in life, in family, at work that place us in proximity to people who make our lives difficult. Maybe we would wish for miraculous deliverance, the nearest exit. A favorite cartoon shows a business man with attache case standing in some desolate, mountainous place. The headline of the cartoon: A voice cries in the wilderness. The man is screaming: Get me out of the wilderness!

The witness of scripture is that it is precisely in the place of challenge that the table is set for us, where we can find nourishment. Can we claim that promise? Have you ever had that experience? Our faith is put to the test as we are called to believe that can happen. I can only attest to the number of stories (biblical and more contemporary) of faithful people who have sensed peace and provision in the most challenging places.

And if we can join the psalmist in affirming the gift of a table set for us, that’s just the beginning. Let me repeat what I cited last week from Bishop Henry Parsley: What is given is given to be given again. If Teresa of Avila was right (and she was pretty smart), Christ has no hands or feet on earth but ours. We are invited, indeed challenged to extend that holy hospitality to those we meet. To set the table for them, in Jesus’ name.

Sometimes the secular world teaches us how to do that. On my “religious” bookshelf, I keep a copy of Danny Meyer’s book, Setting the Table. Mr. Meyer is a remarkably successful restaurateur. I have no idea if he has any religious affiliation, but he has taught me as much about hospitality as any church program. Funny how learning comes from unexpected sources. As a quite successful businessman, he has made hospitality his guiding light. In the introduction to his book, he writes: “What really challenges me to get up and go to work every day…is my deep conviction about the intense human drive to provide and receive hospitality- well beyond the world of restaurants. Within moments of being born, most babies find themselves receiving the first four gifts of life: eye contact, a smile, a hug, and some food…That first time may be the purest hospitality transaction we’ll ever have, and it’s not much of a surprise that we’ll crave those gifts for the rest of our lives.”

I could quote more but it’s Monday morning and you’ve got a day ahead. The point is that God is all about hospitality, setting a table for us, even in the most challenging experience, then calling us to do that for others, in a world of wilderness. How has the table been set for you? How will you set the table for those you meet this week?

–Jay Sidebotham

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The earth is the Lord’s

The heat of summer can be harder on the unhoused than the cold of winter. During one August heat wave, a rector opened his air-cooled church to those who lived on the streets, allowing them rest in the sacred space. Not everyone thought this was a good idea. One established parishioner approached the rector and said: “I don’t like all these people in my church!” to which the somewhat courageous rector responded: “Ma’am, this is not your church. This is not my church. This is God’s church.”

The earth is the Lord’s all that is in it.

Speaking of summer heat, the warming of the earth, felt by all regardless of national boundary, represents an inconvenience for some but tragic hardship for many. Climate change is due in part from a sense that we as human occupants of this planet can do whatever we want with the planet. It’s ours to mess with. Or is it?

The earth is the Lord’s and all that is in it.

I grew up in a religious tradition that derived great energy from figuring out who was in and who was out. My own spiritual journey unfolds in recovery from that kind of toxic spirituality. The dynamic is not unique to my tradition. Religious folks of all sort try to define boundaries of their communities on the basis of good doctrine, good works or good taste. They abandon the notion of human family, feeling better about themselves because some other group is excluded. Current political discourse echoes that, e.g., the ascendancy of Christian nationalism. We might do well to reflect on Psalm 24:

The earth is the Lord’s and all that is in it.

As individuals, a big part of the journey of faith is thinking about what we do with what we’ve been given. What does ownership look like? Many of us have been born into privilege (a goodly number of us in this country). While many of us have been born on third base, we may give in to the tempting imagination that we have hit a home run. That is not to diminish accomplishment or perseverance. But our faith tells us that all is gift. Even our skill, our accomplishments, our perseverance as well as our prosperity is to be seen as gift. In other words, they belong not to us but to God.

The earth is the Lord’s and all that is in it.

If all is gift, what is our response? If we see all that we are and all that we have as gracious gift from God, it could make us feel diminished. So much of our culture depends on the model that we deserve what we have because we earned it. We worked hard for it. That can provide glimmers of satisfaction. It can also make us really tired. And it can make us lose our way, as we confuse ourselves as creation with the creator.

There is freedom in embracing the notion that all is gift, that the earth is the Lord’s and all that is in it. As we embrace that notion, we may find the freedom to reflect that grace to a grace-starved world. Mentor and friend, Bishop Henry Parsley has stated it this way: What is given is given to be given again. That grace-filled approach can open our eyes to God’s activity in all of life. From Howard Thurman: If God is the creator of all things, then all things are in candidacy for his high and holy end.

Give thanks today for the beauty of God’s creation. Give thanks for the gift of God’s church, the body of Christ. Give thanks that even though we human beings are a diverse bunch, we are all children of God, made in the image of God. Give thanks for all good gifts around us as we reflect on what it means that the earth is the Lord’s and all that is in it.

-Jay Sidebotham

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Have you had enough?

Sometimes I get the impression that the psalmist was watching cable news. Again and again, there’s timeliness and timelessness in that ancient poetry. Case in point: the psalm that appeared in the lectionary for yesterday, a psalm printed above. It includes this line:

We have had more than enough of contempt.

I’m inclined to respond: You can say that again. It is not simply the language of candidates who seem to find political success in unbridled expressions of contempt. It’s a broader trend in our culture.

David Brooks wrote an article for the Atlantic magazine (September 2023) in which he addressed two questions. First: Why have Americans become so sad? The rising rates of depression have been well publicized, as have rising deaths of despair from drugs, alcohol, and suicide. More than half of all Americans say no one knows them well. The percentage of high-school students who report “persistent feelings of sadness or hopelessness” shot up from 26 percent in 2009 to 44 percent in 2021.

The kind of sadness Brooks describes leads to his second related question: Why have Americans become so mean? He’s not just talking about politicians. He cites a restaurant owner who said he has to eject a customer from his restaurant for rude or cruel behavior once a week—something that never used to happen. A head nurse at a hospital told Brooks that staff are leaving the profession because patients have become so abusive. Hate crimes rose in 2020 to their highest level in 12 years. Social trust is plummeting. In 2000, two-thirds of American households gave to charity; in 2018, fewer than half did. Brooks says: “We’re enmeshed in some sort of emotional, relational, and spiritual crisis, and it undergirds our political dysfunction and the general crisis of our democracy. What is going on?”

The advent of social media is no help, as people express contemptuous thoughts in ways they would never share in person.

One of the challenges is that contempt breeds contempt. I realize I can’t control what other people say or do. I can only work on myself. But here’s the rub: I want to answer contempt with contempt. My response to expressions of contempt, especially from politicians and cult-like followers, is to think and convey contemptible thoughts. I need help here folks.

Let me go deeper in my quandary. Contempt is no stranger to church life. I have often thought about writing a book on why it is that Christians can be so mean. Folks that speak a lot about grace often seem to have a hard time showing it. As Gandhi noted: I like your Christ but not your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ.

I’m holding out hope that the antidote to contempt can be found in a closer look at Jesus. A closer walk with Jesus.

Look at what Jesus taught. In the Sermon on the Mount, he made the point that an angry (contemptible) thought, for instance calling someone a fool, comes from the same place as murder. It’s a matter of the heart. He asked disciples to think about where their hearts are. He called for people to forgive each other, breaking the contempt cycle. It’s a call for a new heart, a clean heart.

Look at what Jesus did. When met with the most virulent contempt that resulted in his arrest, torture and death, he extended grace and forgiveness. I’ve never faced contempt like that. As a Jesus follower, could I follow him in this regard?

Look at what it means to be part of his community, part of the Jesus movement. We find a way to break the cycle of contempt as we make promises in baptism. In that liturgy, we commit to respect the dignity of every human being as we strive for justice and peace. I wonder this: Can respect overcome contempt? It’s not easy. It may be one of the ways Jesus spoke about a narrow path. But it may just break the cycle. And then it frees us to work for justice and peace, to address contemptible acts (e.g., recent judgments to criminalize homelessness) with the way of love.

If you agree with David Brooks that life has just gotten meaner, think this week about how you can show another way. What would Jesus, our teacher, have us learn? How can we break the cycle?

-Jay Sidebotham

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Okay

If a quote were to be attributed to John Lennon, Oscar Wilde, Paul Coelho, and Patel, the hotel manager in the movie “The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel,” you might think it’s worth considering. Here’s the quote:

“Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.”

What do you think? Worth considering?

No need to quarrel over authorship because the fact of the matter is that these wise sources may all have been reading Psalm 30, included above. Perhaps you heard it in church yesterday. That psalm makes the point in a variety of ways that life is a mix of things that are okay and things that are not okay.

It speaks of God restoring life on the way to the grave. It speaks of weeping in the night followed by joy in the morning. It speaks of short-lived wrath and eternal favor. Wailing is turned into dancing. Sackcloth becomes a garment of joy. You get the idea. It reflects the truth of our lives which are a mix, only navigable because of the ancient promise of Julian of Norwich: All shall be well and all manner of things shall be well.

We face all kinds of reasons why Julian’s hope is not yet realized. Biblical scholars have indicated that our lives unfold in the midst of the not yet and the already. It’s why hope is such an important virtue in the Christian faith. There’s no denying that life can be hard. But as people of faith we are encouraged to believe that the challenges are not the last word.

The challenges are not only external circumstances we face. They can be observed in ourselves. We are not yet all that we should be. A friend of mine, really smart guy, spent most of his life as an atheist/agnostic. A serious student of philosophy, religious faith made no sense. We talked a fair amount about his questions, doubts, concerns. But in his thirties, he came to make a commitment to the Christian faith. One day in our conversations, he shared his creed. He said that he had figured out what the gospel is. He said it sounds like this: I’m not okay. You’re not okay. And that’s okay. His affirmation that it’s all okay was an expression of confidence in the mercy of God, the confidence that grace bats last.

It’s a variation on what Psalm 30 had to tell us, perhaps captured in the bumper sticker that hung on my office wall: PBPGINFWMY (Please be patient. God is not finished with me yet.)

As we’ve noted previously, the psalmist asks us to recognize that a lot of life is about waiting. What are practices you have developed that help you do that? Maybe this week you’re dealing with circumstances that are not okay, that are not well. Maybe it’s difficult to see how it could all work out. (Don’t even get me started on the news!) Our prayer as I write this is that we can move through these circumstances in confidence that they are not the final word. They do not have final say, thanks be to God

-Jay Sidebotham

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How Pleasant…

The psalm says: O how good and pleasant it is when kindred live in unity (Psalm 133:1, NRSV). Please note that the psalm speaks about unity. Not uniformity. Not unanimity. Not even agreement. Which is one of the things I love about church (on a good day).

It’s one of the things I love about a community that tries to keep worship at the center. Churches that aim in that direction allow space for all God’s people to come together. Churches that aim in that direction mean that we can sit in a pew or come to the altar rail with people who differ from us. We can all be fed and even united in worship. It happens when we keep God as the center, when we point beyond ourselves and each other to Jesus.

On June 9, David French, conservative Christian, wrote an op-ed in the N.Y. Times about how he had been canceled by his church because of his own challenge to the political agenda of that particular church. He said that race and politics trumped truth and grace. Not very pleasant. Tom Alberti has written an important book called The Kingdom, The Power and the Glory. The book details the ways that the evangelical movement has become intertwined with one political (and divisive) brand, and how pastors who questioned that development have been ostracized. Not very pleasant. Social media provides daily evidence of thuggish behavior of Christians on the left and right, behavior that insists on uniformity at the expense of unity. Not very pleasant.

This insistence on agreement is nothing new in the church. A mentor told me early on that the Bible is really just a story of sibling rivalry, kindred having a hard time getting along. It starts in the first chapters of Genesis as Cain and Abel disagree, a conflict which ended in murder because Cain was upset about the way Abel worshipped. In other words, it was a church fight, a deadly fight over liturgy.

Earliest documents in the New Testament, written or attributed to St. Paul, speak of challenges that came to congregations when people insisted on agreement on all kinds of issues. Paul gets a bad rap when people think of him as rule-based or intransigent. Maybe he had those moments, but in finer moments, he said that he would be all things to all people. Not that he stood for nothing, but that he recognized that the unity of the community was the best reflection of God’s love, the best reflection of God’s activity in the world. So when people were making all kinds of rules about who could be part of the community, who needed to follow rules or else, Paul said that neither circumcision nor uncircumcision mattered. What mattered was a new creation, a community in which there was neither Jew nor Gentile, slave nor free, male nor female. (If he were writing today, what might he add to that list? Neither Republican nor Democrat? Neither High Church nor Low Church? Neither Fox nor MSNBC? Neither Tarheel nor Blue Devil?) Paul describes a radical vision of community that the church has never been fully able to realize.

The Episcopal Church meets this week in General Convention. Every three years, it’s a big old family reunion. Keep that gathering of kindred in your prayers. There’s plenty of opportunity for sibling rivalry. It’s a diverse group. A variety of opinions on all kinds of matters will be floating around. It’s doubtful there will be complete agreement, unanimity, uniformity. But the convention can be a witness to the possibility of unity. That possibility has been enhanced by the graceful leadership of Michael Curry who winds up 9 years of service this week. He has brought us together by insisting on keeping love at the center, echoing the refrain that if it’s not about love it’s not about God.

Coincidentally, today (June 24) is the Feast of the Nativity of St. John the Baptist. It’s no accident that his birth comes near the summer solstice, when days begin to shorten. (Have you noticed that happening already?) Compare and contrast to the Feast of the Nativity of Our Lord (a.k.a., Christmas), at which point days begin to lengthen. It’s the church calendar at work, illustrating the words of John the Baptist who said of Jesus: He must increase and I must decrease. John the Baptist, shown often in Christian art pointing to Jesus, teaches us about Christian unity by modeling a spirit of humility, a focus on worship, pointing beyond himself.

In partisan times, the church has opportunity to model unity, a rare commodity in our culture. In what ways can you participate in that witness this week, in your family, in your church, in your workplace, in your neighborhood, in the wider community?

-Jay Sidebotham

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RenewalWorks: Helping churches focus on spiritual growth

RenewalWorks is about re-orienting your parish around spiritual growth. And by spiritual growth – we mean growing in love of God and neighbor.

Churches can launch as part of a fall or spring cohort or go on their own schedule. (Now accepting signups for Fall 2024 cohort)  Sign up now!